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If he’s not the guy just break up already
Stop messing around with the wrong guys.
In high school, a random guy asked me out on a date. I said yes. Big deal. Right?
Me, being the nice person that I was just could not say no. To me, the dude was completely unappealing. He was a nice guy but certainly there were no sparks, no chemistry, nothing to build upon.
Next thing I know, we had been together for a few years, he proposes and again I say yes because I couldn’t hurt his feelings. Engagement ring was on my finger. Wedding plans began. Our parents were excited.
Is this hard to understand? I mean how could anyone just coast along through an entire relationship without being honest to their partner, let alone themselves.
Just Be Honest
Women can have incredibly low self esteem. And by women I mean I had low self esteem.
In many households, women have value in whom they have as a mate, or as is my case, if they have a mate.
I was happy to have any relationship. I was happy to have plans on the weekend. I was happy to have someone to escort me to social events. I was happy to have a dining companion. Unfortunately, this was the extent of my feelings.
In hindsight, I realize that this was incredibly dishonest and deceitful. Promises of the ever-after kind of love were made. This is the worst kind of dishonesty — and lying.
