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When taking care of everyone takes care of no one

3 important self care steps to never skip

Libby Winkler
5 min readSep 1, 2019

For many women, our innate tendency is to be the caretaker.

As a mother we want to ensure that our children are clean, fed, well rested, and even happy at times. As a wife we strive to be good partners, ones that can be counted on to support the other partner. As a daughter, we try to live up to standards that can be beyond reasonable.

Through all of this, we frequently hold done one or more full time jobs and careers. I feel exhausted even talking about this.

Yet, most of the time, we do this successfully. You heard me, MOST of the time. Until that crash and burn moment. We all have them. And in the moment don’t we all swear to never again allow this to happen.

Until the next time.

So, how did we get here in the first place?

This can be a rather sneaky thing, and just when you least expect it, wham. You are smacked in the face with extra duties and responsibilities.

When you children’s teacher asks for help with that school event and then suddenly you are the chairperson of the committee. Then you realize that you landed this gig because no one else — truly no one — is helping you. You find that you are single-handed and expected to deliver a world-class carnival to raise funds for the entire athletic department.

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Libby Winkler
Libby Winkler

Written by Libby Winkler

Freelance writer who loves exploring the messiness of humanity, while poking around in nooks of life and shining light on all the things that make us complex..

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